Read the Bible, Sir — Not Just the Parts That Benefit You


Read the Bible, Sir — Not Just the Parts That Benefit You

By Khanyisa Manganyi

Let’s start with the truth: some men want a Proverbs 31 woman so bad, you'd think she was the only woman mentioned in the Bible. They want her clothed in strength and dignity, managing households, submitting like clockwork, rising before the sun, praying, fasting, and working a side hustle — all while being soft, sexy, and silent. But here's the twist: they want all that... without doing any of the leading, loving, or living like Christ themselves.

Sir, respectfully — and I say this with my whole chest — sit down. Open your Bible. Start in Ephesians. You know, that part before “wives submit to your husbands”? The part that says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her”? Yeah, that. Leadership in the Kingdom of God isn’t about barking orders and expecting tea by 5. It's about sacrifice, consistency, and spiritual maturity. It’s about taking authority over your own flesh before trying to take authority over a household.

And let’s not even get into the ones who use Scripture as a leash. Quoting verses like spells, bending the Bible into a weapon to manipulate, guilt-trip, and control — all in the name of “order” and “submission.” That's not headship, that’s witchcraft in a suit and tie.

Some people don’t want faith. They want power. And church culture has made it far too easy for certain personalities to hide behind pulpits and patriarchal systems while never being called out for their hypocrisy. It's easy to say “God said,” when what you really mean is, “I said, and I’m using God to back me up.”

Here’s the spicy part: if you're not submitted to God, you have no business asking a woman to submit to you. Don’t cherry-pick the verses that benefit your ego and ignore the ones that demand your accountability. Leadership is earned, not assumed. And calling yourself “head” doesn’t mean she’s your doormat. It means you're the first to pray, the first to serve, and the first to apologize.

So before you go shopping for a Proverbs 31 woman, make sure you’re not still stuck in Genesis — hiding, blaming, and leading no one, not even yourself.

And to the women reading this: don’t let someone twist God's Word just to keep you small. The Bible is not a tool for oppression, it's a guide for freedom — for both of you.

Read the Bible, sir. And this time, read it all.

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