The Ugly Truth About Modern Dating

The Ugly Truth About Modern Dating

By khanyisa manganyi


Let’s not waste time.
Modern dating is a circus. A soul-sucking, algorithm-fueled, emotionally-draining performance where everyone’s wearing a mask, and no one’s actually falling in love — we’re falling into cycles, situationships, and spiritual confusion.

Here’s the truth most Christians won’t say out loud:
We’re dating like the world, praying like saints, and wondering why we’re left heartbroken.

We swipe, we flirt, we “vibe,” we Netflix-and-cross-our-boundaries — then run back to God crying, “Lord, is he the one?” Sis, he’s not even one of the disciples.

We’ve replaced courtship with chaos.
We test-drive people like they’re used cars and wonder why our hearts feel totaled.

Worse, we idolize "potential" over purpose.
We try to fix men God never sent, or become “cool enough” for boys who can’t even spell commitment, let alone live it. And men — you chase beauty without depth, then complain when her soul can’t match your storm.

Let’s not pretend.

We post Bible verses but ignore red flags.
We say “God first” but put Him last in our relationship decisions.
We say, “We’re just talking,” but our souls are already tangled and our peace is in pieces.

And please — stop with the “God told me you’re my wife/husband” nonsense when all you really heard was your hormones and a highlight reel from Instagram.

Here’s another truth: Sexual purity isn’t just about the body — it’s about clarity.
Every time you compromise, you cloud your discernment. No wonder you don’t know if it’s love or lust.
We can’t say “God write my love story” while grabbing the pen and scribbling mess in the margins.

And don’t get me started on the church.
Half of us are afraid to talk about real dating struggles because we’re met with either silence or shame.
“Pray and wait” is good advice, but it’s not a strategy. Some of us are praying for God to bless what He’s trying to block — because it’s pretty, persistent, or popular.

Let’s be honest:
Modern dating is loud, fast, shallow, and spiritual warfare in disguise.
It’s not just about relationships — it’s about distraction, delay, and destruction if you’re not careful.

So what now?
Maybe it’s time to stop dating like we’re trying to prove something to the world,
and start living like we believe we’re already loved.

Maybe the “one” isn’t coming until you become the version of yourself that actually believes God’s way isn’t outdated — it’s divine protection.

And maybe — just maybe — you’re not single because something’s wrong with you.
You’re single because your heart is too rare for the discount shelf of modern dating culture.

Let that sit.

Boom. No sugar, no fluff. Just truth with a mic drop.
If you’re still reading this, I dare you to share it, talk about it, and maybe even live it.

Because if we keep lying to ourselves,
we’ll keep losing parts of ourselves in the name of “love.”

Anything and Everything Blog


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